IM an Ovol, saying kaddish during the 11 months for my Father zl
I have a local kehilla which often misses getting a minyan , hence no kaddish
I cant go elsewhere as all minyonim are at similar time
I feel guilty leaving my own kehilla to doven, but cant guarantee a minyan
which of the hets is a lessor het, to abandon ones own minyan , or to miss a kaddish