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Someone’s bugging me

The Rav Name:

Hi! There is someone in my life, close to me, that I have to be around a lot. But most of the times we are together we get into a conflict. I don’t know what to call it, we lack chemistry, our energies are not compatible. Everything I say she pokes at and bugs me about and has an issue with. And most things that she says annoys me too.

I just spent an hour in the car with her and we ended up arguing. Then it was over, and for the rest of the car ride, every new conversation that came up she would say something in a way that provoked me again. But because I already felt bad about the initial argument I tried to muster every ounce of self control in me to keep my mouth closed. I know I came off rude, but what can I do? If I speak to her it will be an argument. She has a problem with every word I say and every thing I do and she annoys me like crazy. And i usually answer back and I struggle with not answering back. I’m so upset at myself for caring and not being able to brush it off. Maybe I could brush it off a few times but not so often! I see this person nearly every day and I know she means well, but like I said, our energies are just not compatible. I don’t feel like I have the right tools to handle this and I’m not sure what to do. Do you have any advice for me? Thank you for your time.