Hi Rabbi –
I have a question about doing misvot…
My mother asked me to get her something and my brother was in the room and heard her request too. He made a motion to me, like I can stay seated and he will get up and get it for her. But I got up quickly anyway and got it for her…
Should I have let my brother do it? As far as “kibud em” – my mother’s needs would have been met by my brother who was going to act quickly, so my mother would have been taken care of if he did it or if I did it. If I let my brother do the misva instead of me, am I then doing a chessed for him by allowing him to do the misva? Isn’t it better? Plus I was willing to do the kibud em so it’s not like laziness stopped me…. But do I come to a problem for not honoring my mother when she asked for something, if I allowed my brother to do it? How should we view these kind of moments?
Thank you for your clarification and help!