My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost three years, and he spent the last year at a Yeshiva in Israel. Now we are together at college together. We have talked about getting married many times in the past, but now being on a big college campus instead of his small private school with 60 kids, he has told me that he can’t help but be attracted to all the girls on campus. He has said that even the greatest rabbis struggle with shielding their eyes and have even written books about this. But I feel as if more and more I could be holding him back if he really does want to see what is out there, although I dont believe that aligns with his values. Is this true that many rabbis struggle with also being attracted to women when theyre in relationships or married?
Thank you