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category:  Jewish Law

My boyfriend and I have been

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost three years, and he spent the last year at a Yeshiva in Israel. Now we are together at college together. We have talked about getting married many times in the past, but now being on a big college campus instead of his small private school with 60 kids, he has told me that he can’t help but be attracted to all the girls on campus. He has said that even the greatest rabbis struggle with shielding their eyes and have even written books about this. But I feel as if more and more I could be holding him back if he really does want to see what is out there, although I dont believe that aligns with his values. Is this true that many rabbis struggle with also being attracted to women when theyre in relationships or married?
Thank you

In the halachos of kashrus we find that the mixing of milk and meat can either by done by the milk and meat mixing.
Or by their taste mixing The taste of food can transfer either when the food is at the heat of 45 Celsius (while some are machmir at 40 Celsius) or if the food is sharp and cut with a knife. if the food is not sharp or hot the taste which is in the food will not transfer over via the vessels which are being used unless the vessel being used is unclean as the hen there is actual food left there which is giving over the taste.
Therefore, theoretically speaking if you wash down the mixer after usage you can surely use it for dairy and thereafter for pareve with no concern at all.
For this reason there is no problem to use the same machine for both dairy and pareve yet if the machine is not totally clean you should wipe it down the machine after using for dairy before you use it for pareve if you want the pareve to certainly remain pareve.

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ראה יורה דעה סי’ צ”ד ס”ו סי’ צ”ו סי’ א’ וס”ה וראה סי’ צ”א ס”ב.