I am struggling to find a mate

Dear Natasha!
We are taught by the Lubavitcher Rebbe that every Jew is like an only child born to a couple who waited for many years, in G-d’s eyes, and every human being has their unique mission that only they can perform. Remembering this in addition to a few more tips that follow, will strengthen your spiritually healthy self esteem, and that will act as a magnet to draw your ‘beshert’ closer, (as well as helping overcome the weight problem or your attitude towards it.)
Firstly, as of the moment you read this, your stated goal is to find your soul mate and marriage partner THIS YEAR. The trust you are now placing in HaShem is a spiritual vessel for the blessing you are thereby drawing down.
Secondly, if you haven’t already done so, contact Chabad houses in your vicinity, or as close as you can get, and volunteer your assistance in any project that involves helping them, and/or helping other people through them.
Thirdly, make a good resolution, (perhaps with the assistance of a Chabad representative), about adding on something in your observance of Torah and mitzvot, such as kashrut, Shabbat, more modest clothing or attending a Torah class.
Also, if you were given a Hebrew name, it is worthwhile using it, and if not, ask your Rabbi or Chabad Shaliach to help you get an official Hebrew name.
All the above will G-d willing help you draw down God’s blessings.
We wish you much success, speedily!