I have a daughter who is 33 and is a healthy, haredi kindergarten teacher in Jerusalem. I’m not able to find her the shidduch (match for marriage) she wants, and don’t know to whom to turn. Her father and I divorced and both remarried happily, however her father has not helped at all in this matter, and my second husband passed away 5 years ago. Who can I get to help my daughter find her match? My friends gave me lists of shadchanim (matchmakers) to call, but most told me they don’t deal with girls over 30 and one that did set her up once, but she was not attracted to the boy. I am worried since she is getting older.
My second problem is that I have a granddaughter who doesn’t dress modestly, and two others who don’t talk to me respectfully and I don’t know how to deal with them. I want to do what is right but I also do not want to let them think I condone their behavior. Who can I speak to for help with a child who is going off the beaten track of a Torah observant life? One of my granddaughters said she has an intense love for HaShem, but she just wants to dress like a non-observant Jew. Two more of my granddaughters seem to be having problems with their observance. How do I help these children see that only keeping Torah and Mitzvos brings true happiness? My daughter said she is following a path where you don’t tell children what to do, so that they won’t rebel, but I find it hard not to say anything. It feels as though I don’t care if I don’t say anything.
Thank you very much for any advice and help you can give me.