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The Rav Name: Rabbi Yitzchak Arad

How to change a name:
When a man or a woman comes to a Chabad House wanting to change his or her name, or wanting to add a name, how does one go about this?
Answer: Changing or adding a name is done by means of a Mi sheBerach during the Torah reading. If it involves a woman, a relative or friend should go up and do it for her.
The nusach (format of the blessing) is:

The name should be changed also in official documents such as I.D. card, passport, etc; When the name is changed and it becomes clear afterwards that the new name has not been in use, they should make sure not to change anything in the Ketubah. If both names are in use, it should be written in the margin of the Ketubah, that …… has come before witnesses and said that his name has changed and now it is ……………… If the new name has been in use for thirty days and the old one has been left aside, the couple should turn to a Rabbi who can write them a new Ketubah with the new name. (Mishpat HaKetuba Section 7, Chap. 68, Par. 61.) In the new Ketubah, instead of writing ‘De’eshtakach tauta’ (there has been a mistake), it should say: ‘shehosifu la al shma’, (that has been added on to her name).

B”H

 

Generations of Mamzerut

 

Shalom and thank you for your question. You wish to know basically, for how many generations does mamzerut continue, and does that Halachic (Jewish legal) status cease after said amount of generations?

Firstly, let us make sure we are on the same page regarding the Halachic definition of mamzerut. (Illegitimate child according to Jewish law.)  According to Jewish law, a mamzer is a child from a relationship which would warrant the punishment of death or of Karet, being cut off from the Jewish people. This could be someone born from a relationship of incest between brother and sister, or from a relationship between a married woman with a man to whom she is not married. Even if a woman is separated from her husband but did not yet obtain a Get – a Halachic divorce, and her legal husband is still alive, a child born from a relationship with a different man will unfortunately be considered a mamzer. This applies even if divorce proceedings have begun. In our day, since we do not have the Temple and a Sanhedrin, a special body with the authority to carry out Halachic judgement, we believe that G-d metes out reward and punishment in His own way in a person’s lifetime or in a different incarnation.

 

A child born out of wedlock to a woman who is not married does not have mamzer status, even though this is not a permissible relationship.This applies even if the woman was ritually impure, in other words, had not immersed in a mikveh, a ritual bath, after her menstruation and subsequent seven days of no bleeding. Even though having a relationship with a woman in the ritually impure state is also a sin punishable by Karet, the sages of the Talmud maintain that this is an exceptional case. Despite this being considered a less than honorable ancestry, it does not at all prevent the child from being allowed to marry even into honored families of Cohanim. (Members of the Jewish priestly tribe.)

 

Regarding the amount of generations, although it says in Deuteronomy 23:3 “A mamzer shall not enter the congregation of the L-rd (marry into the Jewish people), according to the principles by which the Torah is interpreted, we learn that actually, unfortunately, the prohibition does not end at all. This is on the basis of the next verse there which says: “Nor shall an Ammonite or a Moabite enter the congregation of the L-rd forever.” Since the 10th generation is mentioned in both of the abovementioned verses, we learn that the ‘forever’ applies in both cases as well.

 

The sages ask: “What is a distortion which cannot be rectified? That which comes about through the birth of a mamzer through forbidden relationships.” (Chagigah 9:2) A convert IS allowed to marry a mamzer, however their children will retain the mamzer status and be in the same position. Due to this a convert will be reluctant to enter such a marital bond, in order not to cause problems for their future children.

 

There IS a factor which makes all of the above a little easier to bear. Halachically, if a person’s lineage is not known for sure, there is no obligation to check it out. We are indeed living in a difficult time because the moral structure of much of western society has changed to the point where people have lost track of the basic family unit. For many people it is no longer a frame of reference. For this reason it is a relief that, as I just mentioned, there is no obligation to check out whether or not a person is a mamzer. It is also important to realize that aside from the marriage restrictions, there are no other distinctions between a mamzer and another Jew. He or she can be a scholar and a productive member of society.

 

If the mamzer is the result of a relationship between a married woman and a man to whom she was not married at the time, Rabbinical authorities should be consulted. If they find something wrong with the woman’s marriage ceremony, something that was not conducted properly according to Halacha, there may be a way to clarify the status as being kosher. In each case it is worthwhile to consult a competent Rabbi to clarify one’s status.

 

Jewish belief is that G-d created and recreates the world constantly, in order for us to do our very best to study the Torah and keep G-d’s commandments despite the challenges, and by virtue of these efforts, the world will be rectified totally and the prophet Elijah will announce the Final Redemption, when there will be no more discord and negative occurrences. We hope and pray that this will happen soon!

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