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The Rav Name: Rabbi Yitzchak Arad

12. If G d is supervising everything, what difference does it make In any case to G d what I choose? In any case G d is directing everything?
Every detail that happens to us comes from Him, but one of the basic tenets of faith is that a person has free choice as to how to behave in a given situation. That is up to us. For example; I was walking, I bumped into something and I fell. I didn’t fall by coincidence, I fell by Divine Providence. How I react – will I curse the stone that tripped me up or will I remember (as Rabbi Akiva used to say) “All that The Merciful One does is for the good” – this is my personal free choice.
I was walking in the street and I met a poor person. It wasn’t co-incidence, G d caused it to happen that I should see him. Now I have the choice whether or not to help him or to ignore him. The situation is brought about by Divine Providence, but as the Ramban writes in ‘Laws of Fasting’ (Chap. 1) that if there is a difficult time for the Jewish people, it should arouse us to turn to G d. As he phrases it: “For if they will not cry out, not shout out, but will say that this thing happened to us as is the way of the world for such things to happen – this is treacherous., and causes them to remain in their evil ways of behavior, and this will bring about increased difficulties. As it is written in the Torah ‘If you walk with me (as if) in happenstance, I will walk with you in wrathful happenstance.’ Meaning that I shall bring troubles upon you, so that you may return (to Me). If you say that it was (just) happenstance, I will increase the wrathfulness of the ‘happenstance’.”
If we already mentioned troubles, what happens when a person has a personal trouble, or when there is a general public time of trouble and people don’t realize that it is Divinely ordained?
The Torah refers to the situation of exile; “And I shall surely hide My Face on that day”. The Baal Shem Tov explains that even when the Holy One Blessed be He hides Himself, a Jew needs to know that this situation of hiddenness stems from the Divine statement “I shall surely hide “. Knowing that it is coming from G d helps to reveal the Divine from amidst the concealment (the troubles).
When a Jew stands up to the trial despite the concealment and acknowledges that everything is supervised by the Creator and that there is a reason for the difficulty, as quoted above from the Rambam, this in itself causes G d to reveal Himself more.

B”H

 

Generations of Mamzerut

 

Shalom and thank you for your question. You wish to know basically, for how many generations does mamzerut continue, and does that Halachic (Jewish legal) status cease after said amount of generations?

Firstly, let us make sure we are on the same page regarding the Halachic definition of mamzerut. (Illegitimate child according to Jewish law.)  According to Jewish law, a mamzer is a child from a relationship which would warrant the punishment of death or of Karet, being cut off from the Jewish people. This could be someone born from a relationship of incest between brother and sister, or from a relationship between a married woman with a man to whom she is not married. Even if a woman is separated from her husband but did not yet obtain a Get – a Halachic divorce, and her legal husband is still alive, a child born from a relationship with a different man will unfortunately be considered a mamzer. This applies even if divorce proceedings have begun. In our day, since we do not have the Temple and a Sanhedrin, a special body with the authority to carry out Halachic judgement, we believe that G-d metes out reward and punishment in His own way in a person’s lifetime or in a different incarnation.

 

A child born out of wedlock to a woman who is not married does not have mamzer status, even though this is not a permissible relationship.This applies even if the woman was ritually impure, in other words, had not immersed in a mikveh, a ritual bath, after her menstruation and subsequent seven days of no bleeding. Even though having a relationship with a woman in the ritually impure state is also a sin punishable by Karet, the sages of the Talmud maintain that this is an exceptional case. Despite this being considered a less than honorable ancestry, it does not at all prevent the child from being allowed to marry even into honored families of Cohanim. (Members of the Jewish priestly tribe.)

 

Regarding the amount of generations, although it says in Deuteronomy 23:3 “A mamzer shall not enter the congregation of the L-rd (marry into the Jewish people), according to the principles by which the Torah is interpreted, we learn that actually, unfortunately, the prohibition does not end at all. This is on the basis of the next verse there which says: “Nor shall an Ammonite or a Moabite enter the congregation of the L-rd forever.” Since the 10th generation is mentioned in both of the abovementioned verses, we learn that the ‘forever’ applies in both cases as well.

 

The sages ask: “What is a distortion which cannot be rectified? That which comes about through the birth of a mamzer through forbidden relationships.” (Chagigah 9:2) A convert IS allowed to marry a mamzer, however their children will retain the mamzer status and be in the same position. Due to this a convert will be reluctant to enter such a marital bond, in order not to cause problems for their future children.

 

There IS a factor which makes all of the above a little easier to bear. Halachically, if a person’s lineage is not known for sure, there is no obligation to check it out. We are indeed living in a difficult time because the moral structure of much of western society has changed to the point where people have lost track of the basic family unit. For many people it is no longer a frame of reference. For this reason it is a relief that, as I just mentioned, there is no obligation to check out whether or not a person is a mamzer. It is also important to realize that aside from the marriage restrictions, there are no other distinctions between a mamzer and another Jew. He or she can be a scholar and a productive member of society.

 

If the mamzer is the result of a relationship between a married woman and a man to whom she was not married at the time, Rabbinical authorities should be consulted. If they find something wrong with the woman’s marriage ceremony, something that was not conducted properly according to Halacha, there may be a way to clarify the status as being kosher. In each case it is worthwhile to consult a competent Rabbi to clarify one’s status.

 

Jewish belief is that G-d created and recreates the world constantly, in order for us to do our very best to study the Torah and keep G-d’s commandments despite the challenges, and by virtue of these efforts, the world will be rectified totally and the prophet Elijah will announce the Final Redemption, when there will be no more discord and negative occurrences. We hope and pray that this will happen soon!

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